New Year, Not a New You
- 5 Tips on how to approach the new year to become a better you.
It’s that time of year again where it seems everyone is pledging their new goals and ‘new me’ for the year ahead. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and pressured to live up to the ideals and expectations of a brand new decade, making unrealistic changes which usually leads to disappointment and failure by Jan 10th.
We live in a world where we need bigger and better all the time, but what’s key is to make your goals relative to your own personal growth, your story and where you’re at right now. New years goals aren’t all about getting a better body or even a better career, they’re for enhancing your personal growth to become a better version of you than you were the year before. This is defined by more than a weight on a scale or a an update on LinkedIn.
Resolutions shouldn’t be deemed as a chore, they should make you feel motivated, not guilty or inadequate. So here’s how to design some new year goals which are intended to better you but not recreate you as a whole new human being - you’re already adequate and worthy.
5 quick tips on how to design the best resolutions for a better you:
1. Pick one area is particular you want to improve. It might be your mental-health, general self-care or career fulfilment. I love the saying about how we can have it all, but never all at once, so there’s always something that needs work. By setting one key intention for the year this enables you to keep in mind the overarching goal and remember what you can do daily that ensures you stay aligned with that.
For me: It’s going to be getting back into sport as a hobby, to be honest, I hate going to the gym on my own as I can never feel motivated. I enjoy team activities so much more and that way I can both increase my exercise but also feel better in myself which is good for my mental health.
2. Write your goals down somewhere you can see them daily. I was told once that the chances of achieving something you’ve committed to in your head in something like 12%, but writing it down increases your chances of success by around 45%.
For me: I’ve started by just writing out what I want to achieve in January, rather than the whole of 2020. That way it helps me break down exactly what it is I can get started on for this month and fit it into my diary.
3. Make your goals achievable - don’t overcommit to working out every single day of the week if currently you aren’t working out at all. Keep it relative to you and don’t be afraid to start small, that’s better than10 goals that are just too much to take on at once. Success is the product of small actions consistently, so start with just one short jog or one minute of meditation, it builds from there.
For me: I really recommend a book called ‘The Morning Miracle’ - It’s teaches you a small change to your morning routine which absolutely transforms the productivity of your day. So if you’re someone who is sometimes prone to the ‘I don’t have time’ excuse, definitely give this a read.
4. Have a mix of different types of goals - don’t purely stick to aesthetic ones, have goals that also feed you mentally and spiritually. It could be to make sure you see a good friend at least once a week, read more, find a podcast that enhances your personal development etc. These are just as important as the external and physical goals.
For me: I really want to prioritise finding happiness with what I already have right now. There is no end to desire and our generation is often influenced to believe we need to be doing more and being better all of the time, but the truth is we really don't and we already have what we need to be truly happy.
5. Celebrate your achievements daily and don’t be so hard on yourself if you slip up from time to time. Small wins are key to continuing and maintaining your momentum and motivation in achieving those longer term goals. Don’t underestimate how far you’ve come already!
For me: A massive goal for me this year is to be nicer to myself, a lot of us are so quick to self-criticise when actually there is so much progress we are making. Journalling really helps me to be able to refer back to how I was feeling or thinking in previous months and recognise how far I've come in certain places. That’s a really great tool to have.
Remember, if 2019 wasn't you're year, you have a second chance now - but don't put too much pressure on yourself. Everyone has their season.